Loved Them AS His Own: Grandpa Barber's Legacy

Grandpa Barber, Christmas 2016, at their house. The last time I saw him. Full of joy and love.

Grandpa Barber, Christmas 2016, at their house. The last time I saw him. Full of joy and love.

This is my grandfather.

Not biological. 

But he might as well be because he treated me like his own granddaughter. As if he'd known and loved me my whole life. 

He is my husbands' dad's dad. And Grandpa Barber is one of those people who, after just spending a few moments with them, always leaves you feeling more loved and accepted and cherished. He would leave people happier and lighter than before he spent time with them...

He used to give me rides to work sometimes when I was pregnant with Isabella. Whenever he'd pick me up, he'd always have an egg and bacon sandwich wrapped in paper towel and in a Ziploc bag ready for me to eat for breakfast. Got up early in the mornings just to cook it for me. Grandma helped with that too.

And after Isabella was born, any time we'd go see him, he'd ask her, "Bella, do you remember all those egg and bacon sandwiches? That's what made you so big and strong!" Chuckles. "Thats why they're still your favorites now!" Laughs.

And that's what he did: laughed and loved heartily, without restraint. He loved everyone in his family like they were his own flesh and blood.

Even those who were adopted or married into the family, you would have NEVER known the difference because in his heart there was no distinction. 

In his heart, he loved them all as his own. 

Im so thankful he and grandma adopted Lawson's father. My father in-law. In-love. I'm so thankful that he passed down this way of loving family like he does. I've felt this exact same acceptance from my in-laws. 

My in-loves. 

For love is what forms families, 
and Grandpa Barber lived that.

Grandpa Barber with Lawson (my husband) and our son Jonathan who was 9 months old at the time (2014).

Grandpa Barber with Lawson (my husband) and our son Jonathan who was 9 months old at the time (2014).

Most of all, I'm so thankful to have known him during this lifetime. He is with Jesus now, as of Friday morning..... but I cannot wait to see him again and hear him greet me with, "What's cookin', good lookin?!" like he always teased. 

I cannot wait to hug his neck and tell him I love him and how thankful I am that he loved us so well. I'm looking forward to eternity where you are now, with Jesus. There, we can spend all the time in the world. 

No distance, 
no busy schedules
-just life and love and family

in God's eternal presence.

I'm honored to be a Barber.

Love,
your granddaughter, Bernadine.